There is NO-THING any one of us has done ALONE…really…nothing:
We come into this world with a team of help, starting with parents, doctors, machines built by people and medicines researched by people and developed by systems of people called assembly lines and corporations.
We take our first step usually as a result of days or weeks of coaching by people excited for our new journey.
We fall down and get up more often than not in the company of others. Sometimes the company we keep is happy to see us fall, and maybe they hope we do not get up. Should such selfishness actually be the case, there’s always family or friends there to help; or there’s a perfect Sunday sermon when the preacher is speaking directly to you, or there’s a good book (my favorite) written by a person who understands you and knows what you are going through (because they taken their own journey down your same road). All these people, standby ready to help you when you need it.
The valedictorian who studied late at night while friends went to parties–or while others even had friends and she or he seemingly didn’t–their success is supported by the teachers who appreciated and cultivated their brilliance; parents who supported by either giving expert parental support, expecting too much, or by being absent. Parents who “abandon” us leave us to the care of others: gangs, therapists, marriages, and again books. So, we never travel even the hardest roads alone.
Every success, every misstep, every possibility is linked to OTHERS. Ask Michael Jordan, Barbara Streisand, Tiger Woods, Oprah Winfrey, Nelson Mandela, Stevie Wonder, Michael Jackson, Madonna, every King and Queen, Jesus, Buddha, Job. Each and every moment in this life is held in the lap of more than just you!
Then why do we humans so often think in terms of doing/going “it” alone, by our self, without help, independently, solo…? There is no such thing, yet we convince our self we were left out, unimportant, or not cared for.
This is just not true.
LIFE loves us. That is why it is designed so that we are never alone on the journey.
Alone is a lie we have come to believe that dulls the brilliance of the TRUTH:
We are ONE…in this l ife together…inseparable…ALL connected…one servicing the other.
Seems to me if you really want to create an extraordinary life the prudent step is to recognize all the help that is innately weaved into your life right now, then actively find a mentor, a tribe who “gets” you, and a coach who can help you get YOU.
There’s the saying that says we die alone. Don’t believe it. When my father died we were all standing around his bed. There was a final flutter of his eyes and the peace that spread across his face at the end that leads me to believe the stories about the white light and souls standing in wait on the other side. Get over it your self and enjoy the bounty of community and support that surrounds you at every turn.
Let’s live life triumphantly.
Tina
P.S. The next time you go into the bathroom and think you are by yourself, think of all the people crowded in that experience with you to make it better—the landowner, tile guy, electrician, vanity manufacturer, painter, flooring expert, fixtures guy and the people responsible for the toilet paper…then make sure you flush, cause you are never alone!
